How to boost self-esteem

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The mind is a beautiful thing

Let’s face it. Physical beauty is largely a genetic crap shoot, so don’t beat yourself up about having less than perfect features or an average  body.  You had nothing to do with it. Life is really all about finding  what’s beautiful in you, and accentuating the positive. The mental side of being “beautiful”  plays a much bigger role than most people realize.

In a research  study done by Dove Soap, they arrived at these interesting, (albiet somewhat disturbing) statistics:

  • Only 4% of women around the world consider themselves” beautiful” (up from only 2% in 2004!)
  •  Only 11% of girls globally are comfortable using the word beautiful to describe themselves
  •  72% of girls feel tremendous pressure to be beautiful
  • 80% of women agree that every woman has something about her that is beautiful,  but does not see her own beauty
  •  More than half (54%) of women globally agree that when it comes to how they look, they are their own worst beauty critic

Personality, not looks

Relationships that last long-term are usually rooted in  personality compatibility and trust rather than  physical attraction. It’s great to have both, of course, but if you can only have one,  choose the  life mate with a great personality rather than model looks. How often have you heard someone say “I married my best friend!”?

Music empowers!

Music has such incredible power. Songs like “Beautiful” by Christiana Aguelera,  “Roar” by Katy Perry, “Brave and “King Of Anything “by Sara Bareilles are all anthems of empowerment for girls and women in today’s culture.  Play the songs loud, and just feel the power course through you. The reason people get emotional when listening to songs like these  is because music is the voice of God.  Listen to the message.

You can get through anything

When life gets really tough just remember this statement that was made a long time ago- “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience” . Things do happen for a reason, even if they seem unfair and senseless at the time. Understand this and it will help you  find the inner strength to persevere

Feeling good about yourself is the key

Help other people feel good about themselves, and this, in turn, will make you feel good about yourself. That’s a promise, but since we’re still concerned about looking good just for our own sake, check out our Beauty Tips for Hair and Beauty Tips for Face

21 days to a better you

If you suffer from low self-esteem, start small and use the “building block” approach to progress. Develop little disciplines and behaviors that move you forward. Psychologists say It only takes 21 days to break a bad habit.  Test that theory out. Each positive step forward brings you that much closer to the person you’d ultimately  like to be. You can do anything you want.

Get out of your comfort zone!

For emotional growth, get out of your comfort zone as much as you can. Put yourself in social  situations where you would normally feel insecure, or unsure of yourself. Doing this on a regular basis will pay great dividends in your development as a self-reliant and confident human being. You are a beautiful, unique individual with amazing resources and talents that are just buried beneath the surface. Get out there and show ’em what you got!

Great trick for pumping yourself up

Any time you are going into a situation where you have to perform at your absolute best (whether it’s a physical performance or just an important job interview), try this amazing move: Find a place where you can be  alone before your  deadline and just throw your arms up over your head in a victory motion (fist-pumps and shouts are fine, too). Do this multiple times until you feel the energy of the universe inside you. Psychologists have observed astounding confidence growth in people who did this when they needed to, with the outcomes of their situations overwhelmingly positive. It will bring something out in you that you might never have known was there!

We’re not gonna take it anymore

From here on in, make up your mind that you will never let anyone abuse you in any way, shape, or form. For some girls, major  damage is done in childhood, and their passive response  in later abusive situations is a learned behavior. Childhood traumas can pollute self-esteem straight through adulthood,  but as an adult, you are free to reinvent yourself anytime you want. Dump the losers and the abusers permanently. Get help if you need to, there are people and organizations with tremendous resources that can help you get through anything you’re facing and they stand at the ready to do just that. Surround yourself with positive, nourishing, and encouraging people. Now that’s beautiful.

You are a special human being

 There has never been, and will never be, anyone like you again. You are a unique and precious individual, and a blessing to all of mankind. Never forget that. If we help and love one another, we can all make it through these earthly trials, no matter how difficult they may be. Give more than you receive, and be a friend to someone in need today, without a quid pro quo. Someday your kindness will  be rewarded.  It’s just the way the universe works